Saturday, January 11, 2014

NOT WHAT GOD INTENDED FOR WORSHIP

Why men have stopped singing in church

Worship BandIt happened again yesterday. I was attending one of those hip, contemporary churches — and almost no one sang. Worshippers stood obediently as the band rocked out, the smoke machine belched and lights flashed. Lyrics were projected on the screen, but almost no one sang them. A few women were trying, but I saw only one male (other than the worship leader) making the attempt.
A few months ago I blogged, “Have Christians Stopped Singing?” I did some research, and learned that congregational singing has ebbed and flowed over the centuries. It reached a high tide when I was a young man – but that tide may be going out again. And that could be bad news for men.
First, a very quick history of congregational singing.
Before the Reformation, laypersons were not allowed to sing in church. They were expected to stand mute as sacred music was performed by professionals (priests and cantors), played on complex instruments (pipe organs), and sung in an obscure language (Latin).
Reformers gave worship back to the people in the form of congregational singing. They composed simple tunes that were easy to sing, and mated them with theologically rich lyrics. Since most people were illiterate in the 16th century, singing became an effective form of catechism. Congregants learned about God as they sang about God.
A technological advance – the printing press – led to an explosion of congregational singing. The first hymnal was printed in 1532, and soon a few dozen hymns became standards across Christendom. Hymnals slowly grew over the next four centuries. By the mid 20th century every Protestant church had a hymnal of about 1000 songs, 250 of which were regularly sung. In the church of my youth, everyone picked up a hymnal and sang every verse of every song.
About 20 years ago a new technological advance – the computer controlled projection screen – entered America’s sanctuaries. Suddenly churches could project song lyrics for all to see. Hymnals became obsolete. No longer were Christians limited to 1,000 songs handed down by our elders.
At first, churches simply projected the songs everyone knew – hymns and a few simple praise songs that had come out of the Jesus Movement. People sang robustly.
But that began to change about ten years ago. Worship leaders realized they could project anything on that screen. So they brought in new songs each week. They drew from the radio, the Internet, and Worship conferences. Some began composing their own songs, performing them during worship, and selling them on CD after church.
In short order we went from 250 songs everyone knows to 250,000+ songs nobody knows.
Years ago, worship leaders used to prepare their flocks when introducing a new song. “We’re going to do a new song for you now,” they would say. “We’ll go through it twice, and then we invite you to join in.”
That kind of coaching is rare today. Songs get switched out so frequently that it’s impossible to learn them. People can’t sing songs they’ve never heard. And with no musical notes to follow, how is a person supposed to pick up the tune?
And so the church has returned to the 14th century. Worshippers stand mute as professional-caliber musicians play complex instruments, sung in an obscure language. Martin Luther is turning over in his grave.
What does this mean for men? On the positive side, men no longer feel pressure to sing in church. Men who are poor readers or poor singers no longer have to fumble through hymnals, sing archaic lyrics or read a musical staff.
But the negatives are huge. Men are doers, and singing was one of the things we used to do together in church. It was a chance to participate. Now, with congregational singing going away, and communion no longer a weekly ordinance, there’s only one avenue left for men to participate in the service – the offering. Is this really the message we want to send to men? Sit there, be quiet, and enjoy the show. And don’t forget to give us money.
There’s nothing wrong with professionalism and quality in church music. The problem isn’t the rock band, or the lights, or the smoke machine. The key is familiarity. People enjoy singing songs they know.
How do I know? When that super-hip band performed a hymn, the crowd responded with gusto. People sang. Even the men.

Friday, January 10, 2014

How about a #Sandwich?

Whats your favorite sandwich? PB &J, BLT, corned been on rye? Mine was a Reuben until I stopped eating meat and created a "Ruby" to fill the gap. The point is, when we think of a sandwich we think only of the joy of eating. There is however, a group of people to whom the word means crisis, anxiety, and painful reminders of  their own mortality.
I am quoting this definition from Wiki but there are several scholarly sources for those who wish to pursue the topic.
"The #Sandwich generation is a generation of people who care for their #aging parents while supporting their own children.
According to the Pew Research Center, just over 1 of every 8 Americans aged 40 to 60 is both raising a child and caring for a parent, in addition to between 7 to 10 million adults #caring for their #aging #parents from a long distance. US Census Bureau statistics indicate that the number of older Americans aged 65 or older will double by the year 2030, to over 70 million.
Carol Abaya categorized the different scenarios involved in being a part of the sandwich generation.
  • Traditional: those sandwiched between aging parents who need care and/or help and their own children.
  • Club Sandwich: those in their 50s or 60s sandwiched between aging parents, adult children and grandchildren, or those in their 30s and 40s, with young children, aging parents and grandparents.
  • Open Faced: anyone else involved in #elder care."
The pressures are intense because of the pull to give 100% in three directions - parent, children, and to the significant other. The shift from child to "parenting the parent" creates it's own difficulty. The sandwiched person often labor under intense guilt feelings because they think they are not honoring their parents as they should. At the same time, there is no second chance to be present in the lives of the caregivers' children if those opportunities are not embraced before kids are too old to for it to matter.
Naturally, many marriages become stressed to breaking point especially when there is no other option but to move the aging and ailing into the nuclear family. What if anything can the "Filling" do to avoid being completely flattened by circumstances?
1.Be realistic - you cannot do everything. Decide what are your absolutes - things you must do and what is okay to ask someone else to take off your hands.
2. Get help - there are government agencies that can provide a couple hours help to bathe and feed or even take your loved one to doctors appointments. Besides, many churches have volunteers; know your resources.
3. Accept the role of decision maker completely. If your loved one is cognitively impaired don't expect rational decisions or expectations on their part. They will not know your are stretched to the limit or fully appreciate you are doing all you can. You have to be the one to set and maintain boundaries.
4. If there are siblings, try to get everyone involved in some aspect of the care-giving duties. Most importantly, don't wait until your parent is in the hospital before deciding on #long-term care and end of life issues.
5. Learn to carve out "me " time - it does not have to be a whole summer vacation. An hour with a friend, a walk in the evening, a quiet place for prayer and meditation. Anywhere, anytime where you can be alone to breathe. By the same token, seek support. You are not the only one going through this season as the statics clearly show. Find a support group.
6. Remember to take care of you while caring for everyone else. Eating, sleeping, exercise ... there as needful for you as for your family. Who knows? On wicked hard days when your energy and optimism are at their lowest and you need a hand up your favorite sandwich may just do the trick.